Strong Mutual Respect Between Parents and Leaders
A new Lifeway Research study reveals that churchgoing parents and student ministry leaders largely view each other as allies in teens’ spiritual growth. Nearly 9 in 10 parents (89%) say they have a great relationship with their church’s student ministry leader. Only 16% of leaders report any tension with parents. Both groups express a strong desire to partner in developing students’ faith, with 99% of ministry leaders and 72% of parents open to collaboration.
Spiritual Growth Is a Top Priority
Parents rank spiritual well-being as the highest priority for their children’s future. Two in five (41%) name it as their top goal, far ahead of emotional or physical health. Most (71%) also say they actively encourage their teens in the Christian faith. Ministry leaders agree that faith formation matters more than church attendance and seek deeper conversations with families about spiritual maturity.
Challenges and Concerns Persist
Despite shared values, concerns remain. More than 9 in 10 parents worry their teens will be distracted by worldly influences or peer pressure. Many fear a decline in church involvement once their children move out. Student ministry leaders also note difficulty in keeping families engaged at home, with 43% saying parents don’t attempt suggested spiritual activities. Busyness, lack of preparation time, and disinterest from both students and parents are common obstacles.
Gaps in Strategy and Support
Though most student leaders (76%) believe parents care about spiritual development, only 57% have a clear plan to support them. Many leaders cite time constraints and feel overwhelmed, especially when balancing preparation and student engagement with parental involvement. Equipping parents is a stated goal, yet many churches lack the structure to make it happen effectively.
Opportunities for Deeper Partnership
Despite difficulties, there is optimism. Nearly all parents (94%) want to be better equipped to disciple their children. Leaders also express a desire to improve parent relationships and provide training. The research inspired the book Define the Relationship to help churches build lasting connections and shift family discipleship from occasional meetings to ongoing relationships.
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Student Ministry Leaders and Parents Share Goals, Desire to Work Together
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